Our first full day together - February 6, 2007

Waiting to finalize the adoption at the registration office.

Since we missed the SuperBowl, Ben and Zane catch the highlights on Monday night on the British Broadcasting Network.

Emma slept with her coat from the orphanage on the first day.
What a doll!!!
Our first night together went great! She went to sleep very easily in her crib, and she out-slept all four of us this morning. We are still jet-lagging, which means we wake up around 3:00 AM because our body thinks it’s 1:00 PM. (China is 14 hours ahead of Alabama.)
For the first part of today, Emma has been still quite solemn, with a few smiles here and there. I can hardly wait to catch her ADORABLE smile on film, so all of you can see it. She looks at her photo album alot. For those who don’t know, we were able to send her this small album back in December in a little package called a “treasure box.” The nannies have been showing our photos while waiting for us to come and get her.
Emma goes to Pat and me very well, although she is still not sure about the boys. It will take just a couple more days before she warms up to them. Zane is very eager to hold her and play with her. She started smiling more this afternoon while Zane was tickling her. She is definitely warming up to the Powell family. She also likes her Dora doll that was given by one of my co-workers at the surgical center.
We went back to the registration office today to finalize the adoption, and Emma immediately began whimpering. She remembered being there yesterday with her nanny. We could tell she was looking around for her. Our guide told us that Emma is very clever to remember the location. While there, we got the paper that says she is ours for good!!!
Because the Chinese people are very concerned about their kids being cold, they tend to bundle the children in at least 3 layers of clothes, especially in their 60 degree weather that is their winter season. As a result, Emma does NOT like to be naked. She wasn’t very fond of her first bath in the hotel. If I pull up her pants leg or roll up her sleeve, she gives us a very pouty look, and we quickly cover her back up.
She seems to be bonding, but we can also tell it will take more time for her to feel completely comfortable with us. She tends to reach for me a lot in public, so that is a good sign of her bonding..
This morning she ate Chinese noodles, rice soup with pork (called ‘congee’), and milk for breakfast at the hotel buffet. Pat, Ben, Zane and I opted for the eggs, bacon, and banana bread. J One peculiar habit she has is holding on to her last bite of food in her little hand.. sometimes for hours! I have to pry the mushy cookie or French fry out! Our China guide told us that these children were VERY well taken care of in the orphanage, yet had very little variety of food. Therefore, she might tend to overeat if we let her, simply because it’s all a new taste. She really likes Goldfish crackers. Today for her nap, she was fussy and unhappy. After she pointed to the desk many times, I realized she was wanting some more Goldfish. She took one in each hand to hold on to and drifted off to sleep.

Pat and Zane try eating local Chinese food with chopsticks..... not an easy task with noodles!
Worth the Wait - February 7, 2007A smile caught on film! It melts our hearts.Big brothers show Emma how to make her Dora doll talk.Eating lunch at McDonalds; our guide had to helpus order since we can't speak or read Chinese.Ben at the salonEmma loves to be held!!
Just to see Emma smile makes all the two years’ work and waiting worth it. She has opened up a lot more today, playing and giggling more. It seems that most of the kids are “coming out” of their shock of the past few days. New smiles are seen and little voices are being heard for the first time. It’s great!
Today we had the morning free, so we went to the hotel’s driving range in the back of the building. Pat, Ben, and Zane hit golf balls, while Emma and I strolled around and watched them. She loves to hold my finger while walking alongside me. We also had a fun time in the hotel lobby; Ben & Zane got on their hands and knees and chased Emma around. It's the first time she has really wanted to play. She laughed out loud sooooo much that we were all laughing along with her.
After lunch we headed to a nearby beach in Haikou, along with the other 5 families. Ben and Zane had a blast in the waves with some other big brothers. Emma ran and laughed as the waves hit her little bare feet.
Ben and Pat got their hair cut at a local, trendy hair salon in the market near our hotel. Ben came back with a handsome style, while telling me that he also got “massaged and scalped!!!” I think he meant to say that the hairdresser “massaged his scalp.” Pat said the relaxing hair wash and 20-minute head massage was worth coming to China.
We are happy to see Emma doing better and better each day. Thanks so much for all your prayers for us. We know that our Father will honor those prayers on Emma’s behalf. Also, thanks SO MUCH for the encouraging words you have sent to us. It is one of the things we look forward to each day.
What a day!! - February 8, 2007In the hotel lobby in HaikouGetting tickled by her brothersThe whole group at the orphanageOur hotel,The Golden Coast Lawton, at nightWe love her giggling!!!
Today was an emotional day for all of us. We had the option of touring the orphanage where the children spent the first part of their lives. At first I had decided not to go, but instead to stay back at the hotel, not being sure how Emma would respond. However, our Chinese adoption guide said that she believed it was safe to go, especially since Emma won’t let me out of her sight… which is a good sign of bonding. This would be my ONLY opportunity to speak with her nannies about her routine, habits, and hopefully her birth story, if known. So, we made the decision to go, just like many of the other moms and dads did.
After pulling up to the building, we unloaded the bus and started to walk inside. The kids were fine, each one being toted by their mom. The orphanage director led us upstairs to a conference room. As we approached the top, we saw a nice gentleman, holding a gift. He immediately saw Emma and spoke her Chinese name softly, “Qing Xiang.” He had such love in his eyes when he looked at her. I instantly remembered the information we received about her back in November. It stated that she was very close to a male caregiver and his wife who worked with the kids. “That must be him,” I thought to myself. He was hoping we would come on the orphanage tour because he had made a photo album of her first 18 months for us. He gave it to me. Then he held out his arms, wanting to hold her one last time. I didn’t mind, and neither did Emma. As he whispered in her ears, he began to cry. Then Pat and I began to cry. What a touching moment it was! He spoke something to me; I asked JoJo,our guide, to translate. She said that Emma would sometimes go home with him and his wife to sleep at night. They were like a foster family to her. What a blessing for an orphan to have that chance to bond with someone! I was glad I had come. If I had not, I wouldn’t have seen or known how much she was loved and cared for or be able to tell her this story when she gets older. And he wouldn’t have seen that she was going to a family that loved her just like he does.
He took a photo of us with Emma, so he could keep it. He also told me that she was very smart. I think he’s right. J
When we all got ahold of ourselves, we sat down with the other families around a huge table. Emma sat with the gentleman, while the orphanage director welcomed us and expressed his desire to stay in touch with us through email so they could hear how the kids grow and change. Wow!! I was amazed at how much they genuinely cared for these children who were left in their care from birth.
During the brief conference, the caretaker took the photo album of our family; he pointed to Pat’s picture and said “Baba” (which means ‘daddy’ in Chinese). He told her I was her Mama, and the boys were her “guh-guh”…. Big brothers. She kissed him on the cheek. It was precious. He was still teary-eyed.
Next, we headed for the playground and the actual kids’ living quarters. She began to cry when we approached the door, so I took her back in my arms and headed back to the bus to wait for the rest of the time. I gave her Cheerios and Kix and some juice. Then she fell asleep on my shoulder while we all traveled back. When she woke up, she was fine, smiling and wanting to be held by me, just like she was before the orphanage visit. Since then, she has laughed and giggled with the boys in the room and has let them chase her in the hall. She runs to my lap and says, “Ma-ma-ma-ma….” I love it!!!!! She smiles A LOT now and her eyes look much happier, so we feel she is doing really well. God is good!!!
In addition to the photo album given to us by the gentleman, the orphanage also put together an album, a CD of photos, AND a baby book filled with paragraphs about her. Too bad it’s all written in Chinese. J I can’t wait to get it translated.
On a different note, Ben’s birthday is tomorrow, the same day we leave Haikou and travel to a beach resort on the southern tip of the island. The trip will be about a four hour bus ride. It will be in Sanya that we celebrate Ben’s 9th birthday. I have some gifts for him and have informed the other families that we’ll be having a little party for him. JoJo even called ahead to the hotel in Sanya to order a cake from the hotel restaurant. We love our guide, JoJo!!